Although I will admit at first I struggled with some of the things on here, but seeing other Christians (especially Christian women) talk openly about their sexuality, has helped me open up more and more. So first of all thank you for that and for this site.
It was a bit of a shock to me when I found myself engaged in sex with my husband and I was thinking some pretty dirty things inside my head. Now keep in mind I was raised in a very conservative and small church and town. Everyone knew everybody. And I was raised to be a “good girl”. But after a few years of marriage, sometimes when I was having sex with my husband and things were getting heated up I found myself thinking in my head, “Fuck me, fuck me, fuck me…” and I would hear that over and over. I never said it out loud and I actually felt ashamed that I was doing that. I felt even more ashamed that I enjoyed that.
But then my husband introduced me to Marriage Heat and I started to see that I wasn’t the only one. That encouraged me and intrigued me. It encouraged me because I saw that I wasn’t a “bad Christian” for thinking that way since so many other Christian women talk like that. And it intrigued me because I felt like it validated the idea that it was okay to say that. My husband and I have talked a lot about this and he made the point that words are just words. We give them meanings and those meanings can change.
Since then we have been trying to work on our “sexual vocabulary” as my husband calls it. It’s taken some time and the change has been gradual, and we’re still not quite where we want to be with it, but we are working on it. I will admit it does feel a little awkward sometimes saying things like pussy, cock, fuck, cum/cumming, etc., but at the same time it’s also exciting and fun! It has added a new level of passion and fun into our sex life.
Recently we entered into a new phase of our “dirty talk” by introducing a new word. We had read a few stories on here where, in the heat of the moment, the husband (and sometimes the wife) referred to the wife as “bitch.” Now that word has always bothered me and even though I was saying things that would make my mother blush if she knew it, I couldn’t bring myself to say that word. But my husband and I talked about it recently and he reminded me that meanings to words can and do change and we can assign meanings to words to use between the two of us. So even though I typically thought “bitch” was derogatory and was the same as calling someone a “jerk” we talked about how we could redefine it. This is what we came up with:
Bitch (noun): 1. a wife who is sexually confident and aggressive. 2. a wife who knows what she wants sexually with her husband and gets it. 3. a hot wife who turns her husband on.
So just recently we have started to incorporate this word into our vocabulary. We are trying to use these words both inside and outside the bedroom (But only with each other and only between ourselves). We will use it in text messages too, but again only with each other. And we are careful to not use these words in anger or frustration towards each other or anyone else. These are only sexual words to use in a sexual context with only each other.
But we have hit a wall and I wanted to ask for everyone’s help with something. We were trying to come up with a dirty word for me to call my husband that is equivalent to “bitch” for me. And we just simply cannot come up with anything that has that same punch to it. So I wanted to ask for everyone’s help in coming up with something. Ladies, what “dirty” sexual names do you call your husband in the heat of the moment? Does anyone have any suggestions? It needs to be something I can call my husband in the heat of the moment that communicates raw, unleashed sexual passion. We’ve been using “bitch” in this way: He will say “Fuck me, bitch” and I will say “Fuck your bitch.”
So what is something we can use to refer to my husband? So that I can say to him, “Fuck me you ____!” The only thing we could think of was “bastard” but to me it just doesn’t have the same punch to it as bitch. So we’re calling on our Marriage Heat friends to help us. Any ideas/thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!
It was a bit of a shock to me when I found myself engaged in sex with my husband and I was thinking some pretty dirty things inside my head. Now keep in mind I was raised in a very conservative and small church and town. Everyone knew everybody. And I was raised to be a “good girl”. But after a few years of marriage, sometimes when I was having sex with my husband and things were getting heated up I found myself thinking in my head, “Fuck me, fuck me, fuck me…” and I would hear that over and over. I never said it out loud and I actually felt ashamed that I was doing that. I felt even more ashamed that I enjoyed that.
But then my husband introduced me to Marriage Heat and I started to see that I wasn’t the only one. That encouraged me and intrigued me. It encouraged me because I saw that I wasn’t a “bad Christian” for thinking that way since so many other Christian women talk like that. And it intrigued me because I felt like it validated the idea that it was okay to say that. My husband and I have talked a lot about this and he made the point that words are just words. We give them meanings and those meanings can change.
Since then we have been trying to work on our “sexual vocabulary” as my husband calls it. It’s taken some time and the change has been gradual, and we’re still not quite where we want to be with it, but we are working on it. I will admit it does feel a little awkward sometimes saying things like pussy, cock, fuck, cum/cumming, etc., but at the same time it’s also exciting and fun! It has added a new level of passion and fun into our sex life.
Recently we entered into a new phase of our “dirty talk” by introducing a new word. We had read a few stories on here where, in the heat of the moment, the husband (and sometimes the wife) referred to the wife as “bitch.” Now that word has always bothered me and even though I was saying things that would make my mother blush if she knew it, I couldn’t bring myself to say that word. But my husband and I talked about it recently and he reminded me that meanings to words can and do change and we can assign meanings to words to use between the two of us. So even though I typically thought “bitch” was derogatory and was the same as calling someone a “jerk” we talked about how we could redefine it. This is what we came up with:
Bitch (noun): 1. a wife who is sexually confident and aggressive. 2. a wife who knows what she wants sexually with her husband and gets it. 3. a hot wife who turns her husband on.
So just recently we have started to incorporate this word into our vocabulary. We are trying to use these words both inside and outside the bedroom (But only with each other and only between ourselves). We will use it in text messages too, but again only with each other. And we are careful to not use these words in anger or frustration towards each other or anyone else. These are only sexual words to use in a sexual context with only each other.
But we have hit a wall and I wanted to ask for everyone’s help with something. We were trying to come up with a dirty word for me to call my husband that is equivalent to “bitch” for me. And we just simply cannot come up with anything that has that same punch to it. So I wanted to ask for everyone’s help in coming up with something. Ladies, what “dirty” sexual names do you call your husband in the heat of the moment? Does anyone have any suggestions? It needs to be something I can call my husband in the heat of the moment that communicates raw, unleashed sexual passion. We’ve been using “bitch” in this way: He will say “Fuck me, bitch” and I will say “Fuck your bitch.”
So what is something we can use to refer to my husband? So that I can say to him, “Fuck me you ____!” The only thing we could think of was “bastard” but to me it just doesn’t have the same punch to it as bitch. So we’re calling on our Marriage Heat friends to help us. Any ideas/thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!
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