Well, there are many reasons, some of them based on Biblical principles, some of them based on purely ethical principles, but there is a key reason based on the health of a couple’s sex life and ability to connect emotionally and spiritually during the act of sex that I especially want to bring up right now.
Lights-camera-action-300x300Sex with your spouse isn’t a porno
Yes, you may think to yourself, but if we videoed ourselves having sex we COULD make a “porno” out of it.
I’m not trying to tell you that you’re love making isn’t hot. What I am trying to tell you is that you shouldn’t have sex with your spouse thinking… “we’re making a porno”. Why? Because pornography with the intent to titilate a viewing audience using camera angles, lighting, body parts, etc. It is meant to entice with performance both visually and audibly. Sex in a porno is about whether or not you have a sexy body, a big penis, perfect breasts, and the best kind of “orgasm” moans.
Viewing your sex life like it should be a porno puts you up to this idea that other people are in your bedroom watching you and deciding whether you were hot or not. That’s not what sex with your spouse should ever feel like. No wonder so many women and men in this porn saturated world feel anxiety over performing! Sex with your spouse is supposed to be personal, it’s unique, it’s something ONLY the two of you should be concerned about. It’s not about the best camera angle or how good you sound when you orgasm or what kind of dialogue you used!
Pornography addiction is a killer of good REAL LIFE sex
If sex is about performance and abilities and about how flexible you are or how far you can deep throat. “Forget the soul emotions, let’s just get down to the f***ing because that’s what we’re here for…” you sex life with your significant is dumbed down to appearance, not heart. This is what porn teaches those who watch it all the time: Sex is ONLY about the physical act and what was done, not what was felt in the mind. Pornography takes emotions and personal imagination completely off the table. Porn can actually ruin a good sexual imagination to the point where someone addicted to it can’t get off UNLESS porn is in the equation.
I’m not writing this to condemn anyone who has viewed porn. I’m not saying that your marriage is now doomed because you have viewed porn in the past. If your spouse is having trouble with porn this isn’t the article to shame them with, it’s the article to show them that there is something better than porn out there and it can be found with you. The most sexual moments of my life are when it’s just Josh and I enjoying each other and not thinking about anything else except how much we love each other. That love leads to erotic experiences beyond anything you could see or feel from a porno.
Marriage Heat believes sex is a Song of Songs poetry and emotional connection. It’s about loving your spouse for who they are, the past you share, the children you have together, the trials you’ve been through, or any near death experiences that make you thankful to be with the one you love.
Lights-camera-action-300x300Sex with your spouse isn’t a porno
Yes, you may think to yourself, but if we videoed ourselves having sex we COULD make a “porno” out of it.
I’m not trying to tell you that you’re love making isn’t hot. What I am trying to tell you is that you shouldn’t have sex with your spouse thinking… “we’re making a porno”. Why? Because pornography with the intent to titilate a viewing audience using camera angles, lighting, body parts, etc. It is meant to entice with performance both visually and audibly. Sex in a porno is about whether or not you have a sexy body, a big penis, perfect breasts, and the best kind of “orgasm” moans.
Viewing your sex life like it should be a porno puts you up to this idea that other people are in your bedroom watching you and deciding whether you were hot or not. That’s not what sex with your spouse should ever feel like. No wonder so many women and men in this porn saturated world feel anxiety over performing! Sex with your spouse is supposed to be personal, it’s unique, it’s something ONLY the two of you should be concerned about. It’s not about the best camera angle or how good you sound when you orgasm or what kind of dialogue you used!
Pornography addiction is a killer of good REAL LIFE sex
If sex is about performance and abilities and about how flexible you are or how far you can deep throat. “Forget the soul emotions, let’s just get down to the f***ing because that’s what we’re here for…” you sex life with your significant is dumbed down to appearance, not heart. This is what porn teaches those who watch it all the time: Sex is ONLY about the physical act and what was done, not what was felt in the mind. Pornography takes emotions and personal imagination completely off the table. Porn can actually ruin a good sexual imagination to the point where someone addicted to it can’t get off UNLESS porn is in the equation.
I’m not writing this to condemn anyone who has viewed porn. I’m not saying that your marriage is now doomed because you have viewed porn in the past. If your spouse is having trouble with porn this isn’t the article to shame them with, it’s the article to show them that there is something better than porn out there and it can be found with you. The most sexual moments of my life are when it’s just Josh and I enjoying each other and not thinking about anything else except how much we love each other. That love leads to erotic experiences beyond anything you could see or feel from a porno.
Marriage Heat believes sex is a Song of Songs poetry and emotional connection. It’s about loving your spouse for who they are, the past you share, the children you have together, the trials you’ve been through, or any near death experiences that make you thankful to be with the one you love.
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